making sense

I went to the funeral for the member of my church who was shot by her husband and someone said to me that a friend told her: "You are trying to make sense of this and it isn't possible to make any sense." A cousin of mine was walking his dog when a tree fell on him last Friday. He is badly injured but is going to live. Tragedy doesn't get any more random than that. But I'm not willing just to say there is no meaning.