Saturday, January 17, 2009


My husband's aunt, now 98 years old, moved to a retirement community near us 15 years ago, as my husband is her only close relative. She has been in an apartment, but yesterday she fell and fractured her pelvis. She is settled now in the health care unit (nursing home area), but assuming she is going to be there for weeks, I don't see how we are going to manage any of it, from her finances to her laundry. My husband is trying to take the burden, but he was so grateful I went with him yesterday evening and made lists. And then there is the problem of her personality--she is pretty sharp but obsessive about her health, from eating a strict low-fat low-salt diet to wanting to take her medicine according to an elaborate schedule to concern that her bare feet not touch the floor. I'm worried that the health care unit really isn't set up to take care of patients who are confinded to bed--she has no TV, no nothing for entertainment. I will ask tomorrow about bed sore prevention. I wonder if we could get help from hospice. She may well recover, but there is no treatment for this but time so we wouldn't be giving anything up by bringing in hospice.

1 comment:

Joann said...

Oh my, oh my. I'm so, so sorry on so many levels.

Life can be so complicated. Can she afford to hire someone to come in once or twice a week and do the laundry, bring her books or read to her, and double check that she's being cared for adequately? I hope so, because it just seems too much for you all right now.