In Echo of the Soul: The Sacredness of the Human Body, Philip Newell writes:
Part of repentance is to discern within us the goodness that has become buried by evil. It is to identify deep in our mistakes and confusions the goodness that is a more authentic expression of our nature than our failings.This names more strongly something I have been groping at. I've been trying to see that many of my mistakes and confusions have at their center good or necessary intentions or needs. The things I hate in myself deserve to be healed, not rejected.