One of the things I learned in my spiritual director training was "let God be the spiritual director." A current situation has me thinking about that. I really believe that my inner healing is following a path that God opens before my feet, and I want to work with people who trust that rather than trying to guide me. I believe in that approach very radically. I have a friend who has been struggling with very difficult medical issues and I try not to even wonder which course of action will be best or what outcome I hope for. I once ranted to a therapist that I didn't want to change, it was too hard to live in a different world. And he said "I will stay with you wherever you are."