Forgiveness

I heard a sermon Sunday about forgiving and forgetting and taking the risk of restoring relationship. I know the priest was coming out of issues he has to face himself, but it was a shock to hear forgive and forget. I'm more comfortable with ideas that say that forgiveness does not have to mean restoring relationship, which may not be safe to do. I don't want to restore relationship (beyond a superficial one) with an abuser on any grounds less than that person fully acknowledging what happened and their responsibility for it, and that isn't going to happen.