Teaching Baptists

One of today's readings is Ephesians 5:1-14, which talks about wives being subject to their husbands. I asked my women's history class last semester to name their religious upbringing or practice, and at least a third of the class were practicing Baptists. Around here if they aren't Southern Baptists they probably belong to an even more conservative group, perhaps with the exception of First Baptist churches in larger towns, many of which have gone with the Cooperative Baptists. But I never had the nerve to ask my students what they thought of the Baptist Statement of Faith that in the section on family says "A wife is to submit herself graciously to the servant leadership of her husband." What is the line between putting students on the defensive and asking them to think for themselves?