I've said for a long time that it is hard to give my children love I wasn't given as a child. By God's grace I can do it, but at a cost in inner pain. What I just realized is how often what my children want is to give me love, and then have me give it right back to them. They aren't asking me to give them something I don't have but to give them something they just gave me. It is the giving I didn't get to do as a child, not just the getting.