tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830953.post1889612104833764697..comments2023-10-24T10:19:44.079-04:00Comments on Deep Language: Composing a LifePemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15013673393201944341noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830953.post-38470604135376971112008-11-11T12:06:00.000-05:002008-11-11T12:06:00.000-05:00I have only recently come across your blog and I t...I have only recently come across your blog and I think it's excellent! I am surprised there aren't more comments from other readers.<br><br>My life is different in many ways from yours, but similar in some. I am caring for a very elderly and widowed father, and gradually learning to make better choices about what help to provide. <br><br>I try to give help which is both wanted and needed - and ideally appreciated - but there seem to be so many pitfalls: <br><br>- being resented for giving help that's needed but not wanted <br><br>- getting run ragged trying to give help that is wanted but not needed <br><br>and, I suppose <br><br>- wasting everyone's time by providing help which is neither wanted nor needed (although it never seems so at the time). <br><br>It's good to read another person's reactions to taking on what for most people is a far from easy role. I find your insights into how your husband feels particularly helpful.<br><br>So thank you so much for taking the trouble to write about it.Elderly lady in trainingnoreply@blogger.com